Friday, November 14, 2014


It's like not knowing how to pick up the phone and call that distant friend you waited too long to call.

It's being afraid, somehow, to just pop back into the picture and act as if nothing happened while you were away. Or being incapable of explaining what happened.

Because what happened was not all that remarkable. But at the same time it was, genuinely, remarkable.

What happened was life.

What happened was legs grew longer

What happened was we drove around a lot, mostly to soccer practice.

What happened was Ian's mother, Granny, died and we went to England to celebrate a life fully lived.

What happened was, we went to the beach and met a dog named Romeo.

What happened was, we painted

And painted

What happened was,we climbed some mountains

And looked out at more mountains. And swam in rivers

And trolled ponds for frogs

And wrote in our journals

And dined by the lake

And turned Barbies into mermaids

And the river called again....

As did the lake....

And back to the river....because it is so amazing and refreshing and alive with constant movement and noise.

 And then what happened was, we picked berries

And went camping on an island in a big lake.

And, yes, we went back to that river and jumped off a cliff and splashed into the water

And there was time for dress up..

And tree climbing

and we went to the beach

Where we saw mermaids

 Esther became a middle schooler and Isla a third grader....

but they still enjoy each other's company... mostly

 Fall came

We put on hats

 And coats

This morning..... there was snow

And I don't have a single picture to share because it's all melted away. Much like the last five months. Turned to liquid that is lapping at our heels, threatening to deepen and swirl around our ankles, ready to lift us off our feet and carry us, suspended and helpless, down this wild, rushing river.

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

I can hear the sounds of my kids playing at recess

I'm sitting on my back step soaking up the sun, yearning to feel the promised effects of Vitamin-D penetrating my skin and seeping into my veins and stimulating my dull brain.

Writing on a laptop outside, with the midday sun directly overhead, is tricky. It's hard to see the words on the screen for the glare.  What I can see --mirror mirror--is my furrowed brow and deeply lined nose and frowning, lined, mouth reflected back at me. Those lines that say, "you've had your day in the sun. Time for some shade and a bit of overpriced beauty cream, Honey."

I keep dipping my head to see the true color of my hair in the sun. It almost looks blonde. It looks so dark and dirty to me in artificial light. The shallow vanities of a once tow-headed girl turned brown-haired woman.

But back to that sound. That sound-- the sound of children squealing, their bodies exuding the joy of liberation. The joy of being released from the rigid walls, the uncomfortable chairs, the assault of overhead fluorescent lights and the expectations of overly strict teacher's aids--is a good sound. That sound is the sound of a happy childhood. I live for that sound.

Last night after helping Isla to bed, I took our giant puppy out for a final frolic in the moonlight. It was bright. The air was cool but not cold. I could hear the breeze whizzing through the baby-leafed trees and vibrating across the grass. Wood frogs croaked. Spring peepers sounded their sustained siren call. There were thin stripey clouds, like iron bars, waving across the moon. The sky looked like a painted backdrop behind a stage. An illustration in a children's book about Gods, Kings, Knights and dragons and their waiting, always waiting, princesses.

As I stood there, my bare feet numb in the cold grass, I imagined being an Indian. A native American without access to Google and Facebook and 24- hour news and the constant bombardment of perpetually-updated information. Just me. My dog. This meadow on this hillside. Those unmoving mountains in the distance, and that constantly shifting sky, showing off its stunning, unselfconscious moon.

Who was the first person to call the moon "the moon"? What did the Indians, who must have stood here once, looking at that same moon, that same archer Orion who goes from lying on his back across the east mountain, shooting straight up into the sky in December, to standing upright, bold and ready, straight above the house, his bow pointing north in spring, think when they looked at that same, younger, moon?

If I hadn't had an artificially-lit house, a computer and a television and a smart phone, a sink filled with dinner dishes, a pile of unfolded laundry to fold, and two young children calling to me  across the meadow, I would have kept walking in that moonlight. I would have walked straight into the woods to see the shadows cast by the trees. And maybe I would have stripped a piece of bark from a white birch tree and found a sharp stick to write with. And I'd write it all down. I'd write all the words I could think of for how the full moon, and the sky that appears to hold it, suspended, makes me feel.

I would write down every question I had about what it was I was seeing and hearing there and every noise I heard, including the creaking of an unlucky tree that can't yield to the wind as noiselessly, and uncomplaining, as the rest.

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Isla's trip to England: A poem

Ian took the girls to England during spring break to see his mother, who is sick in the hospital. Isla wrote this on her way home from the airport.

While their reasons for making the trip were more desperate than happy, they had a good visit with Granny that could very possibly be their last.  Isla stroked Granny's head and helped a nurse feed her. She and Esther both held her hand. Though it was hard to understand her because she is too weak to speak, Esther heard Granny say "I love you" when they left the hospital for the last time.

I'm so pleased they got to see her, their Granny who lives so far away. And I'm even more pleased she got to see them, her curious American grandchildren.

 by Isla

We went to Iagland
I had so much fun
The grass was green and the flowers wear bloming
And the sun was shing like an angul
I walked throw a feald of flowrs.
We went to Wales to see horeses jump like the wind
And their hovs thumping on the growd
Then the nest day we go swimming.
It is Ester sunday
I fill myself up with choclit
It is time to go home
I am sad to leave

Most recent stream of consciousness, which reads more like puddle jumping, can be found here on the BabyCenter Blog.

Saturday, April 05, 2014

Spring light

We had a birthday party for Ian a few weeks back and I was forced to clean the house, well, at least the first floor of the house. This was one day later when it was still clean. Alas, it doesn't look like this right now. If only they could make some sort of preservative that makes your cleaning jobs last longer.

Since that bold night, when I invited half the town over and never considered where they would park, we've been riding out the rest of a particularly grueling winter. I knew we had turned a bend when we got invited to a sugar house to watch some farmer friends do their first boil of the season. I think I heard the world sigh when that sweet steam hit the sky.

Then I know I heard the girls sigh when they took their first sip of sap tea, tea made with boiling hot, sweet maple tree sap, instead of hot water. I've been telling them about it for years and they finally, at age 12 and 8, got to try it.

Other signs of spring are the sound and sight of the farmer whizzing by on his tractor pulling huge vats filled with sap to the sugar house. There was a panic there for a moment, when the sap wasn't running and it was already April.

And I heard the distant sound of honking Canada geese on a walk the other morning. I looked up and there, way high in the steel grey sky was a large formation of migratory birds headed north. North. Of all places.

Maybe my father can finally take his long johns off.

Speaking of my dad, I wrote about him and posted it to the BabyCenter Blog this morning. Read it if you feel so inclined. It's a lot more illuminating into my reality than this post has been.

Saturday, March 15, 2014

What's posterity got to do with my posterior?

Strange how life happens, and happens, and keeps on happening, even when you don't stop to record any of it, not in writing, that is, for posterity. What is posterity, anyway? Does it have anything to do with our posteriors? Our behinds?
I'm thinking yes, yes. It has everything to do with our behinds.

I've vowed to stop dwelling on my behind. Not that I ever truly 'dwelled' on it. Well, now, come to think of it... I spend a lot of time sitting, thus sort ot dwelling, on it. But I certainly have a habit of needing to see what it's doing, or how it's looking doing, back there whenever there is a mirror handy and no one is watching. You know.

What a strange and vain, in every sense of the word, habit. And the day I see my daughters doing it is the day I realize I am a terrible role model. Check your asses before you leave the house, girls. You never know. You never know what, exactly? You never know who might be judging you by the shape, size and volume of your ass?

Oh dear. This is not at all why I stopped in here to write today. This is what happens when I'm presented with a blank page and I'm alone in the house with nothing and no one but the dog curled up on a sunny spot on the floor and the guinea pig around the corner by the chimney noisily nosing her water bottle and chewing on the bars of her cage. Having a caged animal in the house has got to be one of the more bizarre aspects of parenthood. Why? Why, what with the horses and the dog and the squirrels and the birds and the weasels and bobcats and chipmunks and foxes, and bears, and wild rabbits and mice and the voles, and lowing cows in the distance, do country kids need a caged pet in their house? Why?

There I go again. Another tangent. So anyway. It's been awhile. Winter, it's safe to say, came. It's still here. Take a look.

The thought keeps occurring to me, that it isn't what's in the picture that makes Vermont unique, but what's missing from the picture. 

And, while we're on the topic of posteriors....